“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” ~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
Sometimes our worst enemy is… well, us.
We all have self sabotaging traits.
Oh, never mind this post then, I’m only writing to people with issues (myself included).
Self sabotage happens for many different reasons:
- Unhealthy Anger
- Addictive Behavior
- Need for Control
Here are a couple thoughts on how to deal with self sabotage:
1. Get Honest – With Yourself & Others
Admit to yourself that you’re struggling in _______ area. Quit pointing the finger at others or your circumstances and own up. You have some hang ups… Welcome to the club.
Isolation seems like the best way to deal with issues, but the fact is, isolation is a sure fire way to keep struggling. Let someone you trust know about your issues and allow them access to help you.
2. Celebrate Incremental Progress
The need for the perfection can cause people to self sabotage.
Have you ever been on a strict diet and had a bad eating day? Studies show people will binge after the slightest mistake while dieting.
It doesn’t need to be this way. Failure is inevitable, mistakes will happen, there’s no need to throw it all away.
Instead of obsessing over how far you need to go, celebrate how far you’ve already come.
3. Laugh At Yourself
You’re only human.
It’s all good. Life goes on. Laughing at yourself will keep you humble and remind you of your need for grace.
Get Honest. Celebrate. Laugh.